Dear Daughter,
Today is International Women’s Day, a time to celebrate the strength, wisdom, and resilience of women. As a woman in my prime, I want to share three significant life lessons that have shaped my journey—lessons I hope will guide you as well.
- Pursue Your Dreams, Not Just Money
In my early twenties, I made a conscious choice: to chase dreams, not just money. The phrase “I will do anything for money” never resonated with me. I observed how people prided themselves on being “street smart” or “hustlers,” often implying they could manipulate systems for personal gain. That was never my path.
Daughter, I saw how the relentless pursuit of money drained people, strained relationships, and built walls where bridges once stood. Money creates problems it cannot solve. So, I resolved in my heart and before God: “Let me pursue purpose, dreams, and vision, and let money follow accordingly.” Now that I am living my dreams, I am willing to go the extra mile to achieve them. And interestingly, money and its rewards follow.
So, my dear, find your passion and pursue it wholeheartedly. Train, acquire skills, and develop a life strategy. Money will follow. I have peace because I have earned what I have through merit and grace. I do not look over my shoulder in fear. I am content.
- Value Education
Growing up, our home was filled with books, newspapers, and magazines. I read everything I could get my hands on. In my teens, I knew more about politics and social issues than I do now. School was important, so I had to pass my exams, even though I disliked my basic education. However, senior high school awakened my love for learning.
Education did two major things for me: it broadened my understanding of life and showed me the range of choices the world offers. Life is complex, but the best way to navigate it is through knowledge. Reading exposes you to different realities—the good, the bad, and the ugly—so you can make informed choices. Experience may be the best teacher, but why go through hardships if someone has already written about them and their consequences?
Learn to read, write, count, and think critically. When you study, strive for understanding, not just memorization. Don’t rush through learning. Read everything that comes your way. There is a difference between passing exams and being truly educated. The former is about obtaining certificates; the latter is about applying knowledge to life.
In a world where little is expected from women, be the exception—be educated. It will help you make intentional life choices and stand out confidently.
- Choose Your Life Partner Wisely
When I was in senior high school, I planned to meet the love of my life at university. Then, shortly before graduation, a woman told me, “I didn’t meet anyone in university.” Her words stuck with me. I decided that if I met someone, great. If not, I would be just fine.
During university, my priority was to complete my studies successfully. I also believed financial stability was essential before entering a relationship. Love and marriage come with financial responsibilities, and I wanted to be self-sufficient. Though I met many amazing potential partners, I chose to wait. I knew I was not ready for marriage, and I understood that personal growth takes time. Looking back, I am grateful for that decision.
Daughter, the world is not fair to women, and even less so to women in relationships. Take your time. Don’t just desire to be chosen—be in a position to choose. This means being informed, financially independent, and able to recognize red and green flags in relationships. Be wise in love and life.
Final Words
On this Women’s Day, I hope you take these lessons to heart. Chase your dreams, embrace education, and make thoughtful choices in love. You have the power to shape your future. Stand tall, be wise, and live with purpose.
With love,
Your Mother
